If you're getting divorced or thinking about ending your relationship you might be wondering, "How will I survive this?" We have met a lot of divorcing people over the years and it is no secret that some people handle the changes and challenges that come with ending a relationship better than others. In our experience, there is no secret ingredient for handling a divorce well, but we have noticed that the people who seem to come through their divorce with grace and dignity tend to have one thing in common: They prioritize taking care of themselves.
It is hard enough to take time to ourselves when we have children and careers and a thousand little chores to do around the house, but add on the burden of dividing our assets and debts and coming to terms with losing a cherished relationship and what was hard before might suddenly seem impossible. It might feel selfish to take a night to yourself when your children are adjusting to the new reality of their changing family, but how can you be present for your children if you are not taking care of yourself? Something "selfish" - like taking a night away from the kids to see your friends - becomes selfless when it allows you to reconnect with yourself, relax, and return to your kids with a smile.
So whatever it is that makes you happy - keep doing it. The clients we know who take the best care of themselves during their divorce tend to be the ones who save money on fees and avoid big stressful court battles. There's the mom who runs marathons, the dad who builds boats, the wife who goes shopping with her friends, the husband who rode his bike across the country. They found ways to keep going, keep moving, keep loving life - even when it seemed like their lives were falling apart around them.
We are continually amazed by the kindness, the strength, and the resilience we see in our clients, and we are grateful that they trust us to help them through one of the toughest periods of their lives. It is an honor and a privilege to do the work we do.