Living With Your Ex After You Separate

Although you might be separated from your ex, there are some situations that might require the two of you to continue living together. In fact, research shows that 28% of couples who separate still live together due to financial concerns. Many couples today move in together and share the cost of living expenses before they get married, it so it makes sense sometimes to continue living together until each is able to get their financial affairs back in order.

Another common reason separated couples live together is to maintain their parenting bond. Divorce is often a struggle for children, so staying in the same home after the relationship has ended can help the kids transition into the next phase of their life.

Create Clear Boundaries

If you decide to live with your ex after you end your relationship, you need to do what you can to make the experience bearable. The first thing you should do is talk to your ex about the space and boundaries you need for the living arrangement to work. Discuss fair arrangements for your living space and come up with a fair schedule for common areas that you both use. Establishing clear boundaries will help boost your self-esteem and avoid recurring arguments.


Making sure you take care of yourself after your divorce is crucial. You need to prioritize your needs over your ex now that you are separated. Living with your ex can be very stressful, which is why you might want to consider seeing a therapist to help you cope with your post-divorce living arrangements.

Consult With an Attorney Today

Are you thinking of leaving your spouse? Are you worried about your living arrangements after your marriage ends? Stop by our office in San Diego to discuss your case with our legal professionals to make sure your rights and interests are protected. We can build a strong legal strategy and help you pursue everything you are entitled to under the law. Our lawyers are prepared to get to work for you.

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