Divorce is often a stressful experience for families, particularly children. The news itself may come as a shock and navigating the aftermath of it can be even more challenging as they learn how to adjust to a new family dynamic. Parents should do their best to work together to make this transitional period easier for their children. Continue reading for some tips that will help your children cope with your divorce.
Learning How to Cope
Even adults have a difficult time getting through a divorce, so you can imagine how much more painful this must be for your children, especially if they are very young and unable to fully process why this is happening or what it means.
It is completely normal for your children to be sad about your family’s situation. Let them know that it is okay for them to feel what they are experiencing and it is even natural to wish for you and your spouse to get back together. However, make sure they understand your decision to divorce is final.
Here are some other ways to help your children cope with the divorce:
- Encourage your children to talk about what they are feeling and, more importantly, take what they say seriously and validate their emotions.
- Younger children may not be able to fully articulate what they are feeling, so help them put it into words. In some cases, they may know what they wish to say but are afraid to vocalize it. Be willing to talk to them about it even if it is uncomfortable for you to hear.
- Try to offer them support however you can. Different children will have different needs. A younger child may need to spend a little extra time with their other parent on the phone or a favorite stuffed animal to hold onto. An older child may need to sit with you and talk through things a little more.
- As hard as it may be to withhold certain details, it is absolutely crucial that you do not discuss what went wrong with your spouse or any other deeply personal matters regarding your marriage that may negatively portray your spouse.
It is also important for you to take care of yourself and seek help if necessary. For example, a therapist or a support group can provide an outlet for you to express your feelings, so you do not end up having an outburst around your children.
Reach Out to a Compassionate Family Law Attorney for Guidance Today!
If your marriage has come to an end, a family law attorney can guide you through the divorce process and any other legal matters that may arise in the aftermath. At Family Law San Diego, our team has the skill and experience to help you navigate your case.
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